Just A Set Of Shoe's

That is all I needed last night is one pair of shoes for Little Ms. Prissy Princess that matched!!!

Today, the last day of March, little Ms. Prissy Princess had school spring photo's. I had her dresses all nicely hung in her new closet, however, when I was getting everything together last night I discovered I only could find ONE of her dress shoes. :brick It was late and I informed Speedbump either we find at least ONE pair of her dress shoe's or else he was going out to buy a pair for her. *side note: she is called Prissy Princess for a reason, but if you ask T, she swears she is starting to call her Barbie*

Speedbump, what a great man, ventured out into the van's iglo *however you spell it* and found a matching pair of shoes. So photo day went off without a hitch :scatter

The house is 'slowly' coming together, I spent the day today hanging photo's ~ hopefully later tonight I'll be able to post some photo's of the new humble abode since that might be the only way some of my LOCAL friends will be able to see the house. *glares at Kristi* Just because I said no is no reason to keep punishing me gezzzzzzz already ~ I know you want it *wink* :lol

I have tons of things to post that I've been thinking about during this move and they all don't include my move believe it or not ~ plus I have a few rants :smile ~ go figure me and my easy going nature have a rant or two :lol. However for now, I'm off to hang some more photo's on the walls and in hopes that one of my friends here locally keeps to her word and shows up tonight and another friend who is going to come and pick up boxes I've been saving for her *gggrrrr*.

Tootles for now anyways :smile.

THE EASIEST WAY TO FIND SOMETHING LOST AROUND THE HOUSE IT TO BUY A REPLACEMENT!!!!

We Have Floors!!!

Today I discovered that every room has floors!! Okay well the playroom has been the designated dumping zone, but my downstairs is really taking on the look of a house :biggrin. The next task is to get pictures hung and then I'll be happy!!!

Luckily, we have solved the master bedroom closet dilema!!! One of our old neighbors is a carpenter and came over tonight and took a lookie see in what he could do for us ~ :mouse tonight he informed me he'd put together a list of supplies he'll need and get busy on building me a closet that both Speedbump and I can fit in ~ :smile. Mama *being me* is reallllllllll happy since I look in my closet and see the hanger thingy sagging badly and that is just my clothes and not all of them *sniffle*.

And to think in a few days I'll have to search for things to blog about other than my moving issues ~ :hum

Well since I've been so out of the loop on blogs lately I think I'm going to go and do some reading and see how everyone else has been fairing during my departure and hopefully drum up some hits on my site again :smile.

Hope everyone is doing well ~ tootles for now

Jamie

Peaking Above The Rubble

Good Lord when I was complaining before the move about having way too much stuff it was confirmed when the move began!!!! Luckily, we began the move the week before the actual "BIG WEEKEND". I started the day we got the keys of the new house moving the kitchen over and putting it all together. Then I began the very careful move of all my breakables, which I have most of them up, but many still packed away in boxes waiting their turn for display.

We finally got at least one computer operational last night, hense why I am able to share my nightmare with everyone :biggrin.

Now let's see what joys have we had to endure thus far :lol

Well SBC is really starting to gripe my last nerve!!! We still haven't received the correct equipment for our wireless set up so I can not put the playroom/computer room completely together for my liking until we get that :angry.

Don't remember if I stated the nightmare with them ~ first off disconnecting one of our lines 2 weeks before they were to move it, sending us the equipment 2 weeks before they were suppose to only to find out it was the wrong equipment. So Speedbump called was told the correct equipment was on it's way and for us to return the wrong equipment ~ which we did.

So I called yesterday because it was 3 days past the day we would receive it only to find out that they have in fact received our equipment back, they have in fact charged us and not credited it as of yet, but ohhh wait, they don't see where an order was placed for the correct equipment.

Well that answers that question ~ IDIOITS!!!!!!! Now we have it ordered ~ still show no credit on our phone bill, so I'll credit myself thank you very much, and once again we are on hold.

With all the screw ups and poor customer service with Dish Network, we are now very happy with our services that are connected with Direct TV and our Tebo *however you spell it* DVR will be here next Friday. :mouse

For the rest of the move we are still slowly moving through the rubble of the house. Trying to locate items like hair brushes, toothbrushes etc ~ still haven't found them so I just went out and bought new one's. The kitchen and den area are the only rooms that even remotely look like they are put together and liveable. The rest of the house has boxes, bags and disassembled furniture lying around. Today our room got furniture put in it's correct place and bed put up. Little Ms. Prissy Princess has things in ever corner of this house and is still bugging the crap out of me about how bored she is ~ :pummel

None of my curtains work for the windows here *sniffle* however I have an idea :smile. I have some curtains that I brought with me from North Carolina when I married Speedbump that my mama had made which would look wonderful either in my den or in the playroom area ~ I have to do some price checking though on how much it will cost to get them cleaned and wait until I can afford to do that. The curtains I had in my dining room at our old house I have put them together in pieces to hang across our sliding glass door and have enough extra pieces to hang over my kitchen window. Yet for the rest of the windows it will have to be taken one room at a time or check with my mama for more hand me downs to be sent to me :biggrin.

Our bedroom closet is HUGE, however, we only have one instead of two like at the old house and well Speedbump feels neglected due to the over flow of my clothing ~ gotta love hand me downs from mama :smile. Lucikly though I'm making much use of the spare bedrooms closet also and about to start weeding things out for either a garage sale and/or to Goodwill....probably Goodwill since garage sale means putting forth more work than we are already doing at the moment.

Poor Speed is just whipped ~ he moved most of our items with the help of two teenager boys, what little help I could be due to my health and one day his brother, but for the majoritiy of it Speedbump loaded and unloaded everything. Our garage looks like when it snows and people shovel off the top and an entry to get in the vehicle ~ well our garage looks that way right now with just enough space to get my van in there.

As you can tell we are far from done but at least slowly getting there ~ I'll send photo's once I get rooms in order and presentable for viewing :smile.

Hope everyone is doing well and I'll post again when time allows ~ well I'm off to do more unpacking ~ tootles

Ohhh wait, for those who remember the saga about the "fish" before Speedbump and I got married I must report to you, the "fish" has found itself a new home INSIDE the house this go round........:lol

The Woes Of Moving

A smooth transaction this has not been to date and we aren't even half way done yet :cry. So while I sit and enjoy a cup of :coffee I figured I'd jot down some of the mishaps thus far :smile.

Monday, is the official day of signing the last of the papers on the house and getting the keys. Before heading out to the bank I diligently double check all my figures and my balance online. Okay so far so good things are running right on track. Speedbump and I get to the bank and I go and tell them I need a cashier's check for a certain amount of money, no problem right ~ well they were training a girl that day and she added an extra zero into the requested amount ~ she quickly looks for her trainer who looks at the screen and says to me "Ms. Jet, I'm sorry but you are overdrawn". Speedbump quickly rushes to my side as he sees the look on my face as I yell "I'm WHAT ~ that isn't possible"!!! His eyes grow very large as he is looking at his computer screen and says "ohh wait wait let me check". He then says "Ohhhh, okay, looks at his trainee and tells her to go ahead and process the cashier's check".

Now does he really think he is going to get off the hook with me that easily???? :errrr So I quickly ask him, well what was the problem, that is when he informed me that my account showed it was THOUSANDS of DOLLARS overdrawn. I almost passed out on the spot and said HOW ON EARTH did that happen???? That is when I was informed that the new girl added an extra zero and that he'd fix the mistake immediately.

Okay one fire taken care of and fixed or so I thought ~ 24 hours later and a phone called made to the bank in a not so friendly manner on my side the mistake was finally fixed. However for that 24 hour period the rest of my money was held up and untouchable which luckily I had a little cash on me but not enough for the next event :angry.

Speedbump and I leave the bank and finish running the last minute items like getting the water turned on at the new house, a utility I completely forgot about. It is during this time that I call my son on his phone line only to find out that it had been disconnected. :wtf

I get home and call the phone company after about an hour of being on hold, switched from one department to the next, I finally am told that they transfered his phone over to the new house on the 8th of the month and since there was already and active phone on that day they just disconnected his number. Again :wtf!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Finally, I get all that taken care of and order changed to transfer his phone on the same day as the main line only for Speedbump to come in and inform me his car had died. :fdup A neighborhood friend comes over and they dink around on the car for a little bit only to find out it is the starter or else they believe it is right now. Remember that little issue with the bank ~ well of course it had not been fixed at this time so purchasing the starter was out of the question.

So it is about now that rather it is time or not :cocktails are being served!!! We head over to the new house to finalize everything only to find out that a box had already arrived for us at this address in reference to our computer stuff. No big deal until Speedbump opens it up and finds out that they have not sent the right equipment!!! We are going wireless DSL at the new house and they didn't send us all the needed equipment ~ by this time I'm ready to rumble with someone at the phone company ~ but since computer issues are Speedbump's job I'll let him handle it.

Now we are on Tuesday, which I spend the day packing up more of the house, but unable to transport anything until Speedbump gets home since we are down to one vehicle at the moment. Things are going semi smoothly UNTIL I hear Little Ms. Prissy Princess begin to scream bloody murder from my room.

Nothing major really except in her eyes ~ they shut off the satellite a WEEK early right during her favorite cartoon. So I get on the phone with them only to find out I can have it turned back on at this house but then I would have to forfeit the date I already have on the books for hook up over at the other house :pummel Well I'm not going to do that because it takes 2 to 3 weeks to get someone out there.

The only positive thing thus far is that most of my kitchen has been moved to the new house and put away and for those who have been in my kitchen know that is not an easy task :smile. Tonight, more of this house is to be moved over there when Speedbump gets home. Our best laid plans of me doing several runs during the day and then major runs at night when he is home has been shot for already written reasons.

So here we are on Wed and I have more packing to do and Little Ms Prissy Princess is having a melt down due to the upcoming change in her life. She is excited about the new room and playroom but not so sure about how all this works. She is terrified we are not going to be able to move her bed and she says she will not leave this house without her bed. And since I haven't even begun to pack up her room she is freaking out about that not understanding that I'm trying to do her a favor leaving her things in place until the last possible moment to make it easier on her.

Please note I have not even begun on how the dogs are reacting to all this because that is an even larger mess ~ lets just say they are not pleased at events they are seeing going on so tempers are running high between the three of them.

Ahhhh the joys of moving :shakehead

MIRROR MIRROR ON THE WALL I'M LIKE MY MOTHER AFTER ALL!!!!

Nothing To Post About

Or at least what I'm willing to write about :smile

So I started searching on other's blogs for material........

On Billy and Buffy's blog I found this little item :biggrin

Non curo. Si metrum non habet, non est poema.
"I don't care. If it doesn't rhyme, it isn't
a poem."
You are a type A personality. You like bright
things, you don't call in sick to work, and you
have devastating opinions about art.


Which Weird Latin Phrase Are You?
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So in my bordem tonight I decided to go and find a few test out there and see what came up ~

I found this one I thought was pretty cool, but don't think it covers me but hey I was bored ~

Your a Guradien Angel! Guardien Angels are also
knows as Warrior Angels, because they are the
army of God. Not always meaning that they are
in war, simply that their job is to protect
unwary humans from dark dragons, or other evil
demons. Warrior Angels are not always friendly
with humans, but they will watch over them all
the time. Humans say that when a miracle
happens, thank your guradien angel.


What Kind of ANGEL are you? (For Girls only) This Quiz has amazingly Beautiful Pictures!
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Then I found this one and I promise I won't bore you anymore tonight :biggrin

You have an entrancing kiss~ the kind that leaves
your partner bedazzled and maybe even feeling
he/she is dreaming. Quite effective; the kiss
that never lessens and always blows your
partner away like the first time.


What kind of kiss are you?
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Boy I Needed This!!!

I started reading my email after I made the post below.........

BOY a must read!!!! Please keep in mind it was sent to me on an email list and clearly states AUTHOR UNKNOWN........I just found it profound and wanted to share it to all who skip across this neck of the internet..........

A Different Kind of Prayer

Heavenly Father, Help us remember that the crazy driver who cut us off in traffic last night is a single mother who worked nine hours that day and was rushing home to cook dinner, help with homework, do the laundry and spend a few precious moment with her children.

Help us to remember that the pierced, tattooed, disinterested young man who can't make change correctly is a worried 19-year-old college student, balancing his apprehension over final exams with his fear of not getting his student loans for next semester.

Remind us, Lord, that the scary looking homeless man, begging for money in the same spot every day (who really ought to get a job)! is a slave to addictions that we can only imagine in our worst nightmares.

Help us to remember that the old couple walking annoyingly slow through the store aisles and blocking our shopping progress are savoring this moment, knowing that, based on the biopsy report he got back last week, this will be the last year that they go shopping together.

Father, remind us each day that, of all the gifts you give us, the greatest gift is love. It is not enough to share that love with those we hold dear. Open our hearts not just to those who are close to us but to all humanity.

Let us be slow to judge and quick to forgive. Bless us with patience, empathy and love.

Amen.

Author Unknown

The title is so true, boy I needed this, because as you read this, I'm so not the person to forgive or see past ~ this what we all just read is what I "want" to be in my life, yet, I know so many people in my life actively right now who live this poem whom I not only look up too but adore........I only wish I held a centimeter of such goodness!!!

Many Different Topics

First I'll start out with clarifications for one of my readers :smile. Either what was said to me tonight was a compliment, as I know she has seen my photo, or else it was an insult, but hey I'm working with the first conclusion :lol. For the record my youngest child, aka Little Ms. Prissy Princess, is FIVE YEARS OLD, NOT FIFTEEN!!! Q15 is my son who is actually FIFTEEN almost sixteen. They are my only children. Okay wait, my three dogs and hubby are also my children, they are the only two I have given birth too, how's that??? :biggrin

Now that is out of the way, they know who they are :biglaugha I'll just refer to them on this blog as my co-driver on the bus she and I both will be driving to hell.........'all aboard' :lol

There is more if you dare keep reading.

On a more serious note, I have three, okay more than three, but three friends at this moment in time ~ going through major stuff in there life ~ please extend a prayer or twirl of the beads in their direction. I worry so about all of them!!!!

I also this week recieved a very uplifting email from one of my friends to let me know she was still alive and kicking!!!! Kudoas to her bravery in life at this moment...know I love ya darlin'

And even still, I received an e-card in the mail, that I swear has to be documented as the most ~ heartfelt, heartmoving, and more importantly best e-card I have ever received in my "long life online". It was absolutely beautiful!!! I'd share it with everyone, but I see in my stats, I have many happen by'ers and someone in the Michigan area I've not yet tracked down........wings fan huh? Leave me comments on the whole "purpose of the game of hockey" :lol.

Back to the point at hand, I'll not share the card due to their email addy is shown which I don't share friends information anywhere at anytime!!! Yet I have no problem telling Kristi THANK YOU!!!!! Gawd haven't we come a long way :smile And for the record, you beg me not the other way around :lol

Things are absolutely WILD around here!!! Our house, pigs wouldn't even step foot in right now with all the boxes and caous that surounds us at the moment. My poor sweet Speedbump, is exausted on a good day, we won't even discuss the bad one's!!! Work has picked up to the beat of not home before 8 or later in the p.m. for him. Throw my work, the move that begins MONDAY, two kids on two different schedules and baseball, and if we weren't busy enough ~ my continual doctor's visits trying to obtain my options to the already dignosised problem, yet, that doesn't even touch on other issues I complained about :pummel. However, I guess time will tell on that home front if I'm patient enough to endure it :angry!!!!

Then tonight we have enjoyed Speedbump's grandmother in our home. She is in town and what a delight she is to anyone, but most importantly our family. Nonnie not only walks the walk but talks the talk about the TRUE meaning of family and her visits are always the most enjoyable, okay outside of seeing my mama and daddy, that I could ever hope for ~ she isn't always on my side but I know she loves me.

Billy, if you are still reading and/or ~e~I'm in comic book/old rock n roll cd hell and that doesn't even begin to touch on the books Speedbump is just looking at and saying "baby please, delete delete delete!!" HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As I close I only ask that everyone please keep one of my dearest friends in your prayers, someone who reads often will know the name as I'll not link her but to my best friend, chin up baby...........no matter what I'll always be here for you as you are family!!!!

In closing, if this doesn't make sense to you, give me a break it is 2:32 a.m. deal with it it makes sense to me and many other's ~ so if you are one of those scratching your head well :bite :moon ME!!!

TRUE FRIENDS ARE THOSE WHO SEE YOU AT YOUR WORST AND LOVE YOU ANYWAYS

Any Movers Out There?

Well I woke up this morning and looked around my house and the first thought that ran through my mind was, WHAT ARE WE THINKING!!!!

Life is really kicking into over drive around our house ~ we are moving into a larger house, MINUS a pool :mouse!!! It is really only about 2 miles from where we already live, but the mere thought of moving things is MORTIFYING!!! Crossing my fingers and praying to win at least a portion of the lottery tonight to pay for movers to come in pack it all up and move it over there for us :smile.

I've always said I have wayyyyy too much shit, well ~ IT IS OFFICIAL ~ I have too much shit and I haven't begun with children's rooms yet :cry!!!! And then to top things off we'll be moving during March Madness, oh well, my satellite doesn't carry the channels any longer, or at least at the moment so no biggy I guess *sniffle*. Ohhh and did I forget to mention, both kids will be out for spring break. Yeah this was well planned out :lol

On a lighter note ~ I'll leave you with a little joke my in-laws sent me today ~ wonder if they are trying to hint I'm not in a good mood lately :shrug .

Women..... A study conducted by UCLA's Department of Psychiatry
has revealed that the kind of male face a woman finds attractive can
differ depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle. For instance,
if she is ovulating she is attracted to men with rugged and masculine
features.
However, if she is menstruating, or menopausal, she is more prone to
be attracted to a man with scissors lodged in his temple and a bat
jammed up his ass while he is on fire.

EVERYDAY I BEAT MY OWN PREVIOUS RECORD FOR NUMBER OF CONSECUTIVE DAYS I'VE STAYED ALIVE!!!!

This Chaps My Hide!!!!

Okay, I understand that people had issues over the whole Superbowl boob shot, but gezzz give it a rest already!!!! I turn on my TV today only to find out that every channel associated with CBS has been removed from our satalite.

Let's think about this ~

I wouldn't have a problem really if it were just one channel, nor am I upset that MTV is removed, I never watched it anyways. However I am chapped about two of our Disney channels and every Nick channel being removed, the comedy channel and that is when I stopped looking!!!

All I know is they had better adjust my bill accordingly and I don't mean by a stupid dollar either!!! :angry!!!!

Direct TV is looking more like the satalite server to be going towards at this moment as from what I read in this article they still have all their channels up and running with no interuption.

Why punish the public because networks can't have a better handle on taking risky chances on whom they put on stage for such public events. I mean really, when the Osborne's hosted some awards show, there was back lash in regards to the language, but channels just didn't disappear over night. Make the artist who cause such an uproar pay and make restitution again don't in a "corporate" decision decide to remove programing from the public that PAYS for it!!!!

I'm off my soap box!! But yes it really chaps my hide over this ~

I AM NOBODY AND NOBODY IS PERFECT ~ THEREFORE I'M PERFECT!!!

What An Amazing Night!!!!

Well I experienced my first "hockey game" tonight. The "Stars and the San Joze Sharks".

First, I must admit, I am not a fan of hockey. My theory, okay before tonight was, men putting on skates with hockey sticks was just a more high powered version of football or wrestling.

Neither here nor there, hubby has two clients whom had GREAT seats for the game tonight. They insisted that I come along, as they said there were going to convert me. Well I must admit they did a GREAT job. I HAD A BLAST!!!!! I'm going back for another game actually :smile!!!

What even made the night better was meeting up with my old next door neighbor as she was there also!!! She looked GREAT!!! We shared hugs and tears and also informed me on Friday we have a coffee date :mouse. She also gave me a HUGE hug with tears on the eve of the most major loss of my adult life, as far as animals go, my Dust Mop!!! March 8th, 2004 will be a year that my world was ROCKED!!! And not in a good way.... *footnote ~ she is also the one who made arrangements to have my Dust mop cremated and she personally brought him back to me!!!*

However, I'm fortunate, I had LOADS of support, from family and friends to help me through this up heave that any dog owner must endure, however, and most importantly, I'm luckier than most, I had 18 years with my Dust mop.

This weekend has been a lot of reflection, a great deal of happiness, a lot of worries for my friends, but at 1:20 a.m. March 8th the day of my life being readjusted, I feel happy, adjusted and content!!!

Thanks to the friends whom FORCED me into this hockey game, which by the way if you follow hockey the STARS WON 4-0. I also meet some Nascar fans, Kristi will be happy about that issue, whom we had a long talk about the different tracks, which I also think Kristi would have LOVED to be a fly on the wall on that topic....but even Speedbump said "damn I didn't think you knew that much". *pats self on the back on that one :smile".

We get home and I have a very very enjoyable and never too often enough phone conversation with Buffy, one of my "MOMS", and she helped me see some issues I've been wrestling with in the correct light...........but one of our conversations revolved around the movie "The Passion".

All in all this weekend has been hectic, but enjoyable and heading off to bed, I know I have family whom loves me, friends whom love me and a hubby and children whom think I hung the moon. As I drift off to sleep.....life gets no better than this!!!!!! Maybe the difference of my day today and outlook on life consisted of attending church this a.m. ~ with a wonderful service and the feeling of life was just beginning!!

I'll end this post, not only for myself, but for other friends whom have lost pets, they know who they are and they also know this verse ~ and YES this is the first time I've read it but it is time ~

"Farewell, Master, yet not farewel, Where I go, ye too shall dwell.
A moment's time, a little space. When ye come where I have stepped Ye will wonder why ye wept."

Farewell my darling Dust mop, if only in my heart, you are so very much alive and still to date loved!!!

In memory of Dustin ~ *if this is sized right great if not deal with it* the last photo of "MY Dustin" in 2003 three months before his passing......

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TODAY WAS WELL WORTH THE MAKE UP!!!!

What A Day!!!

Thank Goodness it is over and time to relax!!!!!! Yesterday, Little Ms. Prissy Princess officially turned FIVE YEARS OLD!!! So our day today consisted of me getting up WAY before I like doing, heading off to work. Leaving right from work and racing back over to our side of town for the birthday party at McDonald's. Thank goodness we went that route the thought of so many little 4/5 year olds running around my house makes me cringe!!! Loaded up from there to head out to an already in progress baseball game with Q15.

Speedbump called me in route and informed me to hurry up because Q15 was pitching. So I'm speeding along with a grabby grabby birthday girl and finally reach the baseball field to watch Q15 doing an awesome job in pitching. However, the team suffered their first loss of the season :sad. They are now 9 and 1.

Then back home to begin the nightmare of packing up the house. Ohhh wait, I haven't made that announcement here yet have I?? Well yes we are moving :smile. More on that later ~

So here I sit catching up on email and news ~

I guess every President will have some scandal in the White House huh?

And I guess the Super Bowl bare all is having many repelling affects as apparently Howard is now out of there also ~ I guess Speedbump's late night TV enjoyment is coming to an end :lol

Well apparently my dogs feel it is time for me to end this post. Since I've been gone all day they feel it is their time for play and attention with mama and before they forever leave marks on my leg from scratching me for attention I'm allowing them to win this battle. :smile

However I will leave you with this cutie!!! That is her birthday cake behind her :smile.

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SOME DAYS ARE A TOTAL WASTE OF MAKE UP!!!

Extended Families

Have you ever thought about the meaning of extended families in a child's life?????? This is a topic dear and close to me on several reason's ~ let's see if I can follow through my train of thought :smile.

Keep reading if you dare as I'll not apologize!!! And this will be lengthy

The definition of extended family as Webster defines it is:

extended family
n.
1. A family group that consists of parents, children, and other close relatives, often living in close proximity.
2. A group of relatives, such as those of three generations, who live in close geographic proximity rather than under the same roof.

Okay that being said unless you've been living under a rock, or else, just tripped across my blog from some wild search, I'm adopted. Was adopted when I was 3 days old. My son is adopted by Speedbump. Yet, my son has living breathing biological ties throughout his "other" family that he has ALWAYS been fully concious. One step further, it was requested of him, before the adoption was allowed that "HE" personally ask for it to happen, which he did, on his own accord!!!

I feel it is important that those ties NEVER be broken. Call me warped, call me trying to reconnect on issues that I never could, call me anything you'd like ~ but once you start passing judgment is when you need to stop reading as you have NO CLUE!!!

Even in today's world, adoption, no matter when it happens has a "stigma" attached to it. You always have to be one step past the mark of "what is accepted", "what is considered "your personality"", always trying to defeat the scarlet letter "A" pressed upon you as "not wanted". What person, whom calls their self a "true" mother, would ever want that for their child, especially, if she has walked that path ALL her life???

I'm so lucky on so MANY levels in life. Adoption for me I have always looked upon as; "God works in mysteries ways" and for MY LIFE he hit the nail on the head. I have the luxury of obtaining this knowledge well into my adulthood. Painful knowledge non the less but knowledge to know God's plan is always correct.....hense another plug to go and see the movie The Passion!!! :smile.

Yet, I'm proud to know, as a mother, who's son has been lucky enough to be adopted and loved by such a wonderful man, aka my husband "Speedbump", (get compliments while you can babe :biggrin). I'm also lucky enough to recap my life and no longer make my divorce about who "won" custody of my son.

I have also have the luxury to reflect about the battle and live to tell about it ~

In a divorce so many people hurt and feel the affects of it's downfall.......grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, nieces and nephews etc.........life lines are affected from two people who can't make a marriage work but the most horrifying tragedy of it all is who suffers the most, the child (children). I mean let's think about it, when you are in court battling for custody of your child/children, who is thinking of the fall out affect to the extended family???? You are in court to plead your case and win, yet no matter how far you run; and trust me I ran far and wide; you can not escape what is most important ~ family ties!!! ALL FAMILY TIES!!!!!

How do I know this??? I walk that life daily with my eldest!!!! The reason my first marriage broke up had NOTHING to do with our son, but who suffered the most of our break up??? MY SON!!! However, I was lucky enough to have a man come into my life that took the role of fatherhood into his hands gladly. I'll give you one better than that, he not only took Q15 as his own, he allows my x-in-laws and hubby to visit our home, as well as any other family member, anytime they want. Yes, I know I'm a lucky woman.

*Foot note: I was also lucky enough to have a man who saw his son wanting a "hands on father" and did the largest act of love any parent can do under the circumstance ~ another lesson learned but NEVER forgotten in my eyes on my ex husband ~ so I guess I've had the luxury of two extrodianry men in my life and both I called my husband!!!*

Yet, luck does not always have everything to do with it, as no matter how as an adult I know how lucky I am, and my children, or at least one, will always feel that "stigma", my son, and will no doubt eventually look at his life as unlucky at his worst points. And people acutally doubt the power of family and extended family and most importantly the power of God????? This amazes me....anyhoot..

When those times fall upon him, it is MY responsibility to show him he is not alone. He has family who loves him and always has and to also keep those communication lines open. For NO COURT in the land can protect a child and or children like family. Rather it be a mother, father, or extened family or all of the above........the responsiblity lies IN THE FAMILY!!!!

Is it easy??? HELL NO!!!! Okay again I have another advantage we are talking years of healing within the whole family, yet, I'm not regarded as the "ex" wife, I'm called their daughter, sister etc. To me that takes a family of substance, a family of faith, most importantly a family of love!!!

My ex husband and I still talk from time to time on the phone, he has yet woken up to the world of the "internet". I talk to my second "mom and dad", aka ex in-laws, not only on the phone but online, as well as, talk to my brother and sister n laws. I keep them updated on Q15 with websites they can access and updated photo's..........do I have too........no.........why do I??????????

Because at the end of the day...........it is what makes my son a better man and that is a parents job: to make their children better and have a better life than you have lived out.......to make them understand and learn from your mistakes in life.........

Bottom line it is so that my son KNOWS no matter what happened all those years ago, he is loved more than he could ever imagine and the beauty of all that has come out of this..........that love is also extended to his sister. She is no blood relation, however, she is still considered "their own".

Divorce isn't easy, custody battles are ugly, all I suggest is, keep the best interest of the child *children* first and foremost in life you can never go wrong. We as adults make our decisions, never forget: our children NEVER choose their life, parents or divorce, we as adults and our decisions forced them into it. Not always by "both" parents decision either, sometimes only "one" parents decision, but the battles at the end of the day are still the same.....

How do I know this?????

I speak from experience.......I'm the one who walked out on my first marriage, my ex husband did NOT want the divorce...so if I touched a nerve, don't criticize deal with it and most importantly THINK ABOUT IT...........I've had many nerves touched in my battles too!!!! At the end of the day it is all about the children...........

Trust me this is not knowledge learned over night, I've had years to reflect upon it, correct it, and make a mense, but in what I've learned is through my son.......he is who has suffered, excelled, and become such a good little man through all what was stacked against him based on what was in the "best interest of the child". And for me, with all the mistakes I've made in life, the smile on his face when he gets that phone call from "his family" and the long conversations, that is when I KNOW, I've done right by my son!!!!

Yet no matter any outcome, bottom line is this, we all have our crosses to bare ~ it just really boils down to how long we'll carry that cross before making it right by all definitions ~ and in my eyes the only definition is in the eyes of our children.

THERE ARE THREE SIDES TO EVERY DIVORCE ~ YOURS, HIS AND THE TRUTH

An Interesting Twist Of Events

Was reading the news tonight online when my main page popped up this article. This will be something interesting to keep track of to see where politicians lie on the issue of same sex marriages.

Keep reading if you dare and over 18 ~ I'm on my soap box and well I'll not even read it until after I post it :smile. At least I hope I keep the train of thought going in the right direction!!!!

Yet, while reading this, I couldn't help but think ~ for once in some places same sex marriages are being performed and apparently many other states are on board also, but what happens if this discussed amendment to the Constitution is passed??? *footnote if you want to read about that head over here, I stole the link off T's blog*

I mean, for the one's whom have been lucky enough to legalize their union, will it then become null and void, or do those marriages stay on the books??? And how can a state, President, or country null and void your marriage????

Now don't get me wrong, I like Bush. Yeah, T I can hear you mumbling and items you are voicing, but we have disagreed before :smile. However, how can anyone tell anyone else the person they love is unconstitutionally unacceptable, morally unacceptable and the like????

If you want to get nick picky, Whtetigr had a bit of a post on the subject also :smile.

Correct me if I'm wrong here, but isn't one's personal spiritual walk in life between them and God ALONE?? Does it not say in the bible "thou shalt not judge"? I'll even take it a step further from the Bible itself in 1st Corinthians Chapter 4 verses 3 & 4. "I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court; indeed, I do not even judge myself. My conscience is clear, but that does not make me innocent. It is the Lord who judges me."

So I'm over here going things that make you go :hum !!! With the talk of the Constitution being changed to prevent such things happening, now a Mayor being charged by marrying people of the same sex ~ what is next???

Do we as a country not have better things to worry about??? The welfare system, oh there is a concept!!! First and foremost in our minds today, our troops over in Iraq!!! For that matter our troops in ever troubled country dying daily ~ our financial well being as a country, which is dying quickly. What about the amount of homeless people???? The sad part of that statistic is these days as we are busy financing other countries wars and protection, our families are being evicted daily because we can't afford to keep factories, business and the like up and running here in America. Jobs are being lost left and right forcing people literally on the streets!!

Yes, I know, especially in my upbringing I'm going to get some comments from those who "trip" by my blog and quote verse of the bible against homosexuality. So why haven't I posted those entries, well basically in a nut shell, read above!!! It is NOT my place to judge a persons life style or sexual preferences any more than it is anyone's place to judge me and/or mine.

In my humble soap opera version of a person is this ~ I don't meet someone and ask "Do you like the opposite sex?" and then decide if I'll become friends with them. I meet a person, talk, build a relationship with them and determine rather or not I want to be friends with them for whom they are inside, not their life style. To me judging a person by their life style shows a shallowness within your own self and something that maybe the person who does judges another needs to seek within themselves to fix.

In summary, it isn't my place nor do I want it to be my place, to judge someone by their color, beliefs, or sexual preference. Friendships, TRUE friendships are hard to come by, they don't even rank in the "a dime a dozen" category. So if you eliminate a large portion of society on the onset it isn't them who are losing out ~ it would be yourself!!! Just my humble opinion and something to ponder on before you start sling out insults towards those who live a different life style than yours............never forget they are human, they have feelings and they deserve to be loved and respected and allowed all the rights as any heterosexual individual. How easy it is to take for granted as a heterosexual and pass judgment when you've never walked there shoes now isn't it. Well I'm proud to say I won't pass judgment and I believe they deserve the same rights as I can obtain to find happiness/love and a well rounded life.

I DON'T DO DRUGS ~ I GET THE SAME EFFECT STANDING UP FAST

I Know I Have A Following.......

So maybe "they" can answer my questions :biggrin. All I have to say is inquiring minds wanna know. Talk about going from one extreme to another on topic levels on this blog..........:lol

Keep reading if you are over 18 and brave enough to keep reading :smile

Okay during one of our most recent parties, we found out the term of Lesbian's about "packing". Okay LoisLane more found out about that, I was still in or at least trying to be, in coma land.........so I'll ask the question, "How can a Lesbian "Pack" anything?????

Now moving along.........strap on's and dildo's..........

In my sheltered minds eye, if sex requires a strap on and/or dido for delight, why not just go out and find a man??? I mean obviously in a heterosexual relationship a strap on is not an issue, well okay if it is, :lol, I'm sorry!! But vibrators in a heterosexual relationship tend to enhance situations, not speaking from experience of course :smile. But if you are a Lesbian, isn't that stating you want no part of a man??? So why want any form feeling object that feels like a man????

Yeah I know I'm clueless, but hey, I stirring up comments here and well I know I'll get them on this one :lol.

Now before someone passes across my blog and has no idea of who or what I am, let me go ahead and state, I'm NOT, let me emphasis this NOT passing judgment on those who live a different life style, I'm just asking questions that I don't understand the concept of!!!!

Okay girls who live that life style give me some comments................and before some smart ass ask ~ NO I'm not looking to experiment!!! My first experiment, should I ever want to do that is promised, three times over :lol. Let me just reinforce this issue, if I decide to take a walk on the wild side, I'm already spoken for :lol.

Okay girls give it your best explanation for us inquiring minds.....I can so see LoisLane laughing her ass off and sitting on pins and needles waiting for answers.........:lol I'm with ya Lois!!!

DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK ~ THEY DON'T DO IT OFTEN